Hey Guys!
So, since secondary school I’ve had a deep passion in advising and encouraging young ladies, specifically between the ages of 13-21, about so many different issues. Young ladies go through so much and sometimes good Godly advice and some encouragement is all we need. I believe ladies are full of so much potential and we are simply the best – so why not show it?
The reason I chose to express my views to you through blogging is because over the past few weeks I've been doing a lot of observing and I've realised that there are so many beautiful ladies out there that are insecure in the way they look (including myself) and this is shown so prominently in their pictures, tweets, statuses, snapchats etc. There is so much pressure on girls from different avenues to look a certain way. These avenues include boys, celebrities, magazines, reality shows and many more. The “ideal look” is what most girls strive for, but is there really an ideal look? For example, boys put so much pressure on girls to be a ‘slim thick’ size, have ‘natural looking’ hair, not wear a lot of make-up, but the truth is, if we as ladies listen to everything and try to change our look to suit the preferences of others, we lose our sense of individuality and uniqueness which makes us special. YOU CAN’T PLEASE EVERYBODY!
The focus of my blog is for us as young ladies to start embracing our physical flaws. A dictionary definition for physical flaws is ‘an imperfection, often concealed, that impairs soundness’.
Ladies, EVERYONE has flaws. Every single person on this Earth has something about their body or face that they wish they could change or that they aren’t 100% happy and comfortable with. Some people even go the extent of having plastic/cosmetic surgery to enhance or completely change their faces and bodies and STILL aren’t happy, hence why they keep having more and more surgery.
Below are pictures of some celebrities with and without make up that may look ‘perfect’ to us, but I want you to look closely and you’ll realise they are just normal looking humans just like us!
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| Beyoncé Knowles |
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| Jennifer Lopez |
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| Khloe Kardashian |
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| Kim Kardashian |
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| Nicki Minaj |
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| Tyra Banks |
Some people who know me, already know the things I dislike/d about my face and body. I’m going to share a couple of them with you, because it’s easy for you to make the assumption that by the way I carry myself and because I’m writing this blog I think I’m flawless (I wish lol).
So here goes, Firstly, I dislike my arms because they are naturally muscly which isn’t as feminine as I would like; next, I have really oily skin which makes me look like I’m constantly sweating half the time (lol) and when I smile my nose looks huge! Furthermore, I used to HATE my lips because I thought they were so big and didn’t suit my face, but now I’ve grown to love them so much (I pout in nearly all my pictures)! I also have large eyes, which I originally did not like, but I’m starting to appreciate the beauty of it, because it truly is beautiful. Some pictures of me smiling, pouting, with and without make-up:
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While in my thoughts, I came up with a practical ways that we can ‘embrace our flaws’ in reality
- ALWAYS SEE THE POSITIVE SIDE. For example, if you have large lips think of all the people who pay for botox to get the same size lips as you; if you’re tall & skinny, you can make money off your look by going into modelling etc and if you have really oily skin at least your face will never be dry!
- STOP FOCUSING ON YOUR IMPERFECTIONS BUT RATHER FOCUS ON THE FEATURES YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF. This method really worked for me: write a list of the features you like and dislike about yourself. Throw the list of the features you don’t like away and put the list of features you do like in a place where you will see it daily. Now always focus on those things and thank God for giving you such beautiful features! Flaunt it girl.
- BE CONFIDENT; FAKE IT TILL IT’S REAL. Confidence is one of the most important and attractive attributes to have. If you are confident in yourself, no one can say anything about your flaws that will bring you down. If someone tells me I have big lips today, I will simply smile and say ‘Thanks for that. Now tell me something I don’t know.’ If you accept your flaws and embrace them, anyone who has anything negative to say will feel quite embarrassed when they realise you don't care. Even if you feel you're having a bad day and you look your worst, carry yourself around, head up high, like you’re looking 5*! It’s so important. Do not let anyone take advantage of your weaknesses.
So that’s all for today. Remember ladies, we are all unique and beautiful in our own individual way because we are made in the image of God & He ain’t ugly. Inner beauty is what really counts and external beauty follows. Carry yourself like you are royalty and always remember to embrace your flaws rather than letting it get you down.
Stay confident, Stay beautiful and keep smiling J
Thanks for reading xo
